Saturday, August 11, 2012

No Offense to my Husband...

But I can't seem to get anything done when he's home.
I'm just wondering if this is a solo problem (mine?) or is this an epidemic that we can start a support club for?
I love my husband.  He is an excellent provider, leader, father, lover, etc.
He works hard.  We are both teachers and he is constantly a student favorite, being asked to teach an additional class because the students all want to be in his class (true story).  He works teaching high school Chemistry and Physics from 7:30 am until 3:30 pm with only a 35 minute lunch break (since he gave up his prep period to teach that extra physics class).  Then he coaches varsity football from 3:30 until 6:30 ish.  He works so hard trying to mentor his players and be a supportive father many things I'm thankful for.
And then there is me.  I am going to be working from 7am until 10am.  AMEN!  Seriously, as a teacher this is an amazing schedule.  I am getting paid for that, but still, amazing.  Then I'll be home by 11 to take care of the girls and the house like other moms.  Very excited.
For summer my amazing husband taught summer school and had football practice, and then FINALLY he had 2 weeks off before football picked back up (we don't start teaching with kids until Aug. 20th).  So he's home during the day a little more this week. 
And here is my problem.  All summer (and Spring - maternity leave) I was able to get up, get the girls ready for the day and get going.  I made a list and got everything done.  Highly productive (very proud of myself).  But I've noticed this week, as he's home in the middle of the day...I can't do anything!
Am I waiting for him to do it since he's home?  (rude)
Am I wanted to just sit and relax and enjoy his company (rub my feet please?)
Am I trying to give him additional time to play with the girls? (maybe?)
Am I wanting a relaxed atmosphere for him while he's here? (probably)

I don't know why it is, but when he's here...I am completely unmotivated to do anything.  No laundry, no's an epidemic! 

Does this happen to anyone else?  When your husbands are home is it business as usual?  Does your routine include your husbands at home or away?  Do you feel bad about sitting around while he's home (I'd love any reason to justify doing this!)?
But really, I don't want him to think I don't do anything all day (he doesn't think that, but I'm afraid of know how moms/wifes can be, he's bringing the money, my job is the kids and house).

Thoughts?  Reflections?
My name is Courtney and I'm unable to clean with DH home!


Becca said...

Haha.. This is funny! Well my husband WORKS FROM HOME... So if I was unproductive while he was at home you'd be watching us on hoarders by now! I think the reason you do it is because you enjoy te family time! It sounds like your husband is very very busy and so when he IS at home and you are both enjoying the girls.. You want to soak up that time (and you should!!) while it's there! Who wants to clean house when you can sit,relax and enjoy the entertainment of your children that you produced together!? I LOVE watching my hubby enjoy our son! That's just normal behavior! Don't berate yourself for normalcy! : )

I saw something yesterday that said "if you want happy kids... Then spend more time with them and spend less time making money."

And I know that in today's economy --unfortunately-- mommas and daddies are torn away from their kids to provide for them way more than God ever intended (IMO) but there IS some truth to that saying too!!

You're doing a great job,Courtney. :)

PJ said...

Yep! Yep! I am unmotivated when my husband is home too. All summer, I don't get much done on the weekend and then on Monday, BAM! I am super productive.

I am so JEALOUS of the planning time high school teachers get! We get like 35 minutes a day to prep for reading, writing, spelling, math, science, social studies, and remediation.

Still though, sounds like he is an awesome teacher!

Once Upon A Time said...

Yeah, me too. I find not only is it because I want to enjoy the time together as a family, but that we do things at different speeds. It's hard for me to be motivated to keep moving when nap time hits, when my DH takes a 15 min snooze (or more) first. I am WAY more productive when he isn't home.

Anonymous said...

I am soo with you. If I have a list of things to do, and he's home, I can't get anything done. I feel like he's in the way, or I will be in his way. Maybe I secretly don't want him to see me clean. I don't know what it is but my mom is the same way and she doesn't know why either.